Self entitlement syndrome is the perfect label for that annoying breed of people who act like the world exists to serve them.
While it’s not an official mental disorder, it nails the attitude of anyone rocking an entitlement mentality – cutting in line, demanding special treatment, and acting like rules are for “other people.” This entitlement mindset is basically an invisible crown they wear everywhere, from grocery store checkouts to group chats.
People with a sense of entitlement drain your patience fast. In this article, we will be talking about the signs of entitlement mindset, and how to start dealing with entitled people without losing your sanity.
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What is Self Entitlement Syndrome?
People with an entitlement mindset act like the world is their personal vending machine. They believe they deserve more – more benefits, more exceptions, more attention and more perks, without putting in more effort. That’s a strict no-no for them.
Such people are not just over-confident, they think that the world owes them, and wherever they go, they should be given the VIP treatment. They are sort of like energy vampires – speaking with them for just 5 minutes will make you feel drained.
So, let’s talk about the signs of people who suffer from a sense of entitlement.
7 Signs You’re Dealing with Entitled People
1. They think “special treatment” is standard service.
Some people get special treatment once and think it’s their new normal. Your coworker gets priority parking one day because it’s raining? Suddenly they think that’s their spot forever. This is peak self entitlement syndrome.
They expect the best slice of cake, the best seat, the fastest response – every single time. And if they don’t get it? Cue the silent treatment or a dramatic sigh.
2. Gratitude? What’s that?
People with a sense of entitlement act allergic to “thank you.” You could help them move house, drive them to the airport at 4 a.m., or save them from tsunami, and they would still behave as if what you did was no big deal, and you were supposed to do it.
This entitlement mentality makes them think and believe that your compassion is something that YOU owe them. You didn’t do any favors, you simply did what you had to do.
Don’t take it personally; they are running on a whole different operating system.
3. Rules are suggestions (for other people).
Have you ever seen someone run a red light as if it’s the most normal thing in the world? That’s the entitlement mindset in action. Be it policies, rules, deadlines, or even the lines at a supermarket, they see them as optional.
People suffering from self entitlement syndrome genuinely believe that exceptions exist for them. The trick is not letting them pull you into their alternate reality.
4. They are always the “real” victim.
This one’s sneaky. They mess up, but somehow you end up being the bad guy. So, you did not give them what they wanted? Oh, you are so unfair! Did you by any chance hold them accountable? How dare you attack them like this!
They have a habit of playing the victim, and it’s just another way of keeping the spotlight on themselves while cleverly avoiding responsibility.
Dealing with entitled people like this means spotting the guilt-trip before you end up apologizing for something that wasn’t your fault.
5. The word “no” physically hurts them.
When you tell an entitled person “no,” watch their face twist like you just said you ran over their cat. The entitlement mentality can’t process rejection – it’s not in their vocabulary. They might pout, rage, or pull out the passive-aggressive “fine.”
But here’s the thing: if you give in once, they will never forget it. “No” has to mean no, or you are signing up for a lifetime subscription to their demands.
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6. Life is one big competition (and they are always winning).
Share a personal win, and they’ll find a way to one-up you. Got promoted? They “basically got offered CEO last week.” Went on a vacation? They have been to a “more exclusive” spot. It’s not about celebrating you, it’s about making sure they stay on top.
This constant need to outshine everyone is just self entitlement syndrome dressed up as confidence.
Spoiler: it’s not confidence, it’s insecurity with a superiority complex.
7. Their problems are always urgent, whereas yours? Not so much.
This is one of the most obvious signs you are dealing with entitled people. They will text you at 2 in the morning about some “emergency”, but when you need help? Crickets. They are either very tired, busy, or mysteriously unavailable.
This sort of entitlement mindset puts their needs and demands at the center of everything, while conveniently pushing yours far far away.
People with a sense of entitlement expect instant attention but give none in return; it’s a one-way street with no U-turns.
How To Deal With People With A Sense Of Entitlement
- Draw strict boundaries, and make sure you stick to them: Spell out what you will and won’t do, and under no circumstances, make any exceptions, even if it’s just to “keep the peace.” The moment you bend, they will expect it every time.
- Don’t take the bait: People with a sense of entitlement live for emotional reactions. So, stay cool and calm, keep your tone neutral, and don’t give them the drama they are looking for.
- Use “Broken Record” responses: Pick one calm, firm answer (“Sorry, I can’t do that”) and repeat it exactly, no matter how they push back. Consistency shuts down arguments, and this always works.
- Protect your time and energy: Limit how much access they have to you, be it emotionally, physically, and even digitally. The less room you give them to drain you, the better it is for your sanity.
- Know when to walk away: You have to accept that some situations just cannot be fixed, no matter how hard you try. If someone refuses to respect your boundaries, cutting them off entirely is best and healthiest thing you can do for yourself.
Takeaway
Self entitlement syndrome isn’t just annoying, it’s draining. Dealing with entitled people can badly affect relationships, your sanity, affect teamwork, and turn normal conversations to emotional marathons.
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But there’s a silver lining. Once you know which signs to look out for, you can protect your energy; boundaries are your best friend here, so set them and stick to them.
And most importantly, remember that you don’t owe entitled people anything.
