Trying to figure out if he’s into you can feel like emotional gymnastics. One minute he is all warm and cute with you, and the very next minute, it seems like he has ghosted you. You ask yourself if you imagined the whole thing or it really happened. You didn’t. The signs he has feelings for you is actually hiding in plain sight.
He may not say the words out loud, but his actions? If you look close enough, you will realize that his actions are doing all the talking.
Some men hold themselves back from expressing their feelings, because they are scared of being rejected, feel confused about their emotions, or just not sure how to express what they feel.
But does that mean their feelings aren’t real? Of course not! So if you’re picking up mixed signals and need a little clarity, read on to know the signs he loves you but is scared to tell you.
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7 Signs He Has Feelings for You but Is Scared to Admit It
1. He remembers weirdly specific things about you
How to tell if a guy likes you? Look out for this sign.
He knows you hate tomato ketchup. He remembers that childhood story you once told him about how you had a hamster who loved doing cartwheels. These aren’t things someone just casually remembers.
If he brings up little moments, small preferences, or inside jokes from forever ago, trust me, that’s not accidental. A guy has feelings for you if he’s mentally screenshotting everything you say.
He might not say out loud, “I love you!!”, but these little things do all the talking. It shows he’s sweet, attentive, and totally in love with you.
2. He gets awkward and nervous when it’s just the two of you
Ever notice how he’s cool and calm with everyone else but suddenly gets all fidgety when you’re around? Like he somehow forgets to talk or loses the ability to make eye contact? Yep, this is just one of the signs he has feelings for you.
This nervous energy is one of the biggest signs he loves you but is scared. He wants to impress you but doesn’t want to come on too strong. Also, he doesn’t want you to think that there is something wrong with him.
So what does he end up doing… nothing. But everything in his body is screaming, “Please understand I really, really like you. I just don’t know how to be cool about it!”
3. He is there for you, even when he doesn’t have to
So, you just casually mentioned to him that you are not having a bad day at work, and he Door Dash-es you your favorite coffee and doughnuts. When you are down with the flu, he sends you hot chicken soup and garlic breadsticks.
This shows that he always wants to be there for you, whenever you are going through a hard time. And, not in a “hope you’re okay” kind of way — more like a “I’m low-key worried about you, but I’m playing it cool” vibe.
One of the clearest answers to how to tell if a guy likes you is this: he shows up. Maybe not in grand ways, but tiny, consistent and thoughtful ones. That’s his love for you speaking louder than his fear.
4. He gets jealous, but pretends he’s not
Have you ever noticed that whenever you mention a guy friend, his energy seems to shift? No you didn’t imagine it, he is actually jealous. On the outside, he might try to laugh it off or pretend to not care at all, but trust me, he is spiraling a bit on the inside.
This is one of those signs he has feelings for you but hasn’t figured out what to do with those feelings yet. His silence is protective. His jealousy? That’s the truth peeking out.
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5. He quietly plans a future where you are always there
Maybe it’s just a casual “you’d love this movie” or “we should try that place sometime,” but guess what? That “we” matters. If you have ever seen him making plans with you that extend beyond next week and you are in ALL of them, then that’s big.
That’s how a guy, especially a shy guy tells you that he loves you. He just keeps it safe by disguising it as “just friends hanging out.” But come on, let’s be real here, he is dreaming a little, and in that dream, you are always around and by his side.
6. He opens up to you, without feeling the need to be strong all the time
This is one of the biggest signs he has feelings for you. Here’s the thing – men who are scared to admit they like you usually have their walls up. However, if he has ever let you in on his fears, and tells you stuff he never tells other people, then it’s a sign you have his trust.
He is being vulnerable with you, and it shows that his heart is making a shy, quiet entrance. This is one of the most beautiful signs he loves you but is scared.
He might not say the L-word, but he’s letting you see the real him — and that says a lot more.
7. He pulls away sometimes… but always comes back
Ugh, this one hurts, doesn’t it? And I am have been there. One day he’s all flirty, texting you nonstop, and it seems like he just can’t stop talking to you. And boom, the next day? Crickets.
And you’re left thinking, “Wait, did all that really happen, or did I imagine it all?” Nope, you didn’t. This push-pull thing is pretty common when a guy catches feelings and freaks out.
He’s so very into you. But it scares him, so he retreats – until he misses you again and comes right back. It’s one of those confusing but real signs he has feelings for you but just doesn’t feel safe admitting it yet.
Let me tell you one thing – not every guy will be brave enough to put it into words. Some will send you mixed signals because they’re scared, unsure, or trying to protect their heart.
But you know what you can do? Listen to your gut, and try to understand what it’s telling you. If you feel that you have pretty strong feelings for him, why not initiate a conversation?
You never know, you might just end up in a happy, fulfilling relationship!
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Have you ever seen these signs he loves you but is scared? Let us know your thoughts in the comments down below!
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