If you have ever been guilt-tripped with a “Why don’t you call more often?” text, you have already met the world of old fashioned things parents expect. These aren’t just mere quirks, they are a part of a treasure chest of outdated parental expectations polished and preserved through decades of habit.
You can blame the generational gap in parenting for this – they grew up in a world where there was not a lot awareness or knowledge about certain things, that we have had the privilege of learning.
From Sunday visits to “dress properly for the airport,” things parents want from adult children are rooted in traditional family expectations that feel more vintage than Vogue.
So, without any further ado, lets talk about the eight old fashioned things parents expect from us.
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8 Old Fashioned Things Parents Expect (Whether We Like It or Not)
1. Never Missing a Family Function
In your head: “It’s my third cousin’s engagement, I have only met him twice.”
In your parents’ head: “Family is everything. If you don’t attend, then people will talk.”
This is one of those traditional family expectations that defies geography, time zones, and your actual relationship with the person in question.
You could be across the country, down with the flu, or in the middle of an important work deadline – the RSVP they’re looking for is “Yes.”
It’s not even about the event itself. It’s about appearances, honor, and making sure aunties and uncles don’t whisper “She’s too modern now” or “The kids of today’s generation just don’t have the right values.”
2. The “Dress Like You Were Raised Right” Rule
You could be a doctor, a CEO, or a very successful entrepreneur, but if you show up in ripped jeans, you will still get “the look”. Clothing is one of those outdated parental expectations that never quite evolves.
In our parents’ eyes, “appropriate” usually means covered, ironed, and somewhere between “job interview” and “wedding guest” at all times. It’s actually less about fashion, and more about showing the world that you were “brought up well.”
Never mind that feeling comfort is a thing or that it’s 37°C outside.
3. Running Major Decisions Past Them First
From switching jobs to moving cities to buying a new couch – some parents expect to be part of the decision-making process, whether or not you asked.
This is one of those old fashioned things parents expect that’s rooted in love but can feel… a little intrusive. For them, big changes in your life are family matters, and keeping them in the loop means respect.
For you, it can mean practicing the art of nodding, listening, and quietly doing your own thing anyway.
4. Elders Are Always Right (Even When They’re Not)
No matter how unreasonable or even downright insulting your Grandpa is being with your life choices, the rule stands like it has for the past 50 years: you should always respect your elders, no matter what.
This thing parents want from adult children is a non-negotiable expectation across many cultures, and questioning it can feel like breaking an unspoken code.
For them, it’s all about values and family honor. For you, it’s about keeping the peace, and perfecting your polite-smile-while-screaming-inside face.
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5. Projecting the Perfect Family Life
This is one of the most traditional family expectations to have, and honestly, sometimes it makes me want to pull my hair out. Our parents care way too much about what the neighbors think and say.
It is all about how your choices reflect on the family as a whole. Career? Relationship? Lifestyle? It’s all part of the “brand.”
The idea is to project respectability, stability, and a life that looks picture-perfect, even if reality is a mix of existential dread and takeout boxes.
6. Taking Their Life Advice Like It’s Gospel
We live in the era of Google, podcasts, and self-help books, but for parents, their wisdom is timeless – and free.
Whether it’s how to manage your finances, raise your kids, or cure a cold with ginger tea (but this works though), this is one of the old fashioned things parents expect to be respected without question.
Of course, they are drawing from the same playbook they have used for decades, so sometimes there’s a tiny generational gap in parenting and problem-solving.
Your polite nodding while silently thinking, “that’s not how rent prices work anymore”, is practically a love language.
7. Settling Down (Like, Yesterday)
You could have a very successful and thriving career, a huge apartment, and the emotional intelligence of a monk, but to parents, nothing says “success” like a spouse and a mortgage.
This is the traditional family expectation that might just outlive humanity itself. The generational gap in parenting here is huge: they were often married in their early 20s, while our generation is still figuring out what we want for dinner.
Cue the regular “Have you met Aunt Carol’s friend’s sister’s cousin’s best friend’s son/daughter?” ambushes at weddings and family dinners.
8. Keeping Traditions Alive
From cooking certain dishes exactly “how it’s done at home” to attending church every Sunday, parents often expect us to carry on rituals they learned as kids.
This is one of those things parents want from adult children that comes from a place of nostalgia, love, and the fear that cultural roots will fade. And that’s not even the tricky part, to be honest.
Life moves faster now, and we don’t always have the bandwidth (or patience) for five-hour cooking sessions or regular church visits. But saying no feels like rejecting not just a task, but a piece of family identity, and that’s a guilt trip no one wants to bear the burden of.
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Dealing with these traditional family expectations is like walking a tightrope; you are trying to balance your modern mindset and independence with the pull of your roots.
Some old fashioned things parents expect from us are sweet reminders of where we come from; others are just plain exhausting.
But in the end, even with all the “when are you coming home?” calls and unsolicited advice, it’s their way of saying, You matter to me. And honestly? That’s pretty timeless AND priceless.
Which of these traditional family expectations do you have to deal with the most? What do you think of the generational gap in parenting these days? Let us know your thoughts in the comments down below!
